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"Я такой важный индюк, что не могу позволить, чтобы кто-то поступал согласно своей природе, если она мне не нравится. Я такой важный индюк, что если кто-то сказал или поступил не так, как я ожидал – я накажу его своей обидой. О, пусть видит, как это важно – моя обида, пусть он получит ее в качестве наказания за свой «проступок».

Ведь я очень, очень важный индюк!

Я не ценю свою жизнь. Я настолько не ценю свою жизнь, что мне не жалко тратить ее бесценное время на обиду. Я откажусь от минуты радости, от минуты счастья, от минуты игривости, я лучше отдам эту минуту своей обиде. И мне все равно, что эти частые минуты, сложатся в часы, часы – в дни, дни – в недели, недели – в месяцы, а месяцы – в годы. Мне не жалко провести годы своей жизни в обиде – ведь я не ценю свою жизнь.

Я не умею смотреть на себя со стороны. Я настолько не умею смотреть на себя со стороны, что никогда не увижу мои сдвинутые брови, надутые губы, мой скорбный вид. Я никогда не увижу, насколько я смешон в этом состоянии и никогда не посмеюсь над его и своей нелепостью. Никогда. Ведь я не умею смотреть на себя со стороны.

Я очень уязвим. Я настолько уязвим, что я вынужден охранять свою территорию и отзываться обидой на каждого, кто ее задел. Я повешу себе на лоб табличку «Осторожно, злая собака» и пусть только кто-то попробует ее незаметить! Я окружу свою уязвимость высокими стенами, и мне плевать, что через них не так дорога моя уязвимость.

Я очень зависим от других. Я так зависим от других, что не пропущу ни одного взгляда, ни одного слова, ни одного жеста. Я буду следить за другими постоянно, я буду оценивать каждое их проявление в отношении себя и если я решу, что оно неправильно, то я покажу насколько они неправы! Ведь те, что вокруг и рядом, должны подчеркивать мои достоинства, должны оттенять мое величие, и не дай бог, они поступят иначе. Я обижусь, чтобы скрыть – как сильно я зависим от них, от других.

Я – чужой раб. Я раб слов и поступков других людей. От них, моих хозяев, зависит мое настроение, мои чувства, мое самоощущение. Не я – они – несут за это ответственность. Не я – они – виноваты в том, что со мной происходит. Не я – они – должны что-то предпринять, чтобы мне стало легче. Да,мне не трудно быть марионеткой– ведь я – чужой раб.

Я раздую из мухи слона. Я возьму эту полудохлую муху чужого ляпа, я отреагирую на нее своей обидой. Я не напишу в дневнике как прекрасен мир, я напишу – как подло со мной поступили. Я не расскажу друзьям как я их люблю, я полвечера посвящу тому, как сильно меня обидели. Мне придется влить в муху столько своих и чужих сил, чтобы она стала слоном. Ведь от мухи легко отмахнуться или даже не заметить, а слона – нет. Поэтому я раздуваю мух до размеров слонов.

Я нищ. Я настолько нищ, что не могу найти в себе каплю великодушия – чтобы простить, каплю самоиронии – чтобы посмеяться, каплю щедрости – чтобы не заметить, каплю мудрости – чтобы не зацепиться, каплю любви – чтобы принять. У меня попросту нет этих капель, ведь я очень, очень ограничен и нищ.

Я очень несчастен. Я столь несчастен, что слова и поступки других людей, постоянно задевают мое несчастье. Ведь я очень важный индюк, но не ценю свою жизнь, я не умею смотреть на себя со стороны и люблю раздувать из мухи слонов, я очень уязвим, зависим от мнения других и нищ, по сути. Не обижайте меня, лучше пожалейте. Потому что я очень несчастен.

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THE THINKER by Berton Braley

Back of the beating hammer
By which the steel is wrought,
Back of the workshop's clamor
The seeker may find the Thought;
The thought that is ever Master
Of iron and steam and steel,
That rises above disaster
And tramples it under heel.

The drudge may fret and tinker
Or labor with lusty blows,
But back of him stands the Thinker,
The clear-eyed man who knows;
For into each plow or saber,
Each piece and part and whole,
Must go the brains of labor,
Which gives the work a soul.

Back of the motor's humming
Back of the bells that ring,
Back of the hammer's drumming,
Back of the cranes that swing,
There is the Eye which scans them,
Watching through stress and strain,
There is the Mind which plans them -
Back of the brawn, the Brain.

Might of the roaring boiler,
Force of the engine's thrust,
Strength of the sweating toiler,
Greatly in these we trust;
But back of them stands the schemer,
The Thinker who drives things through,
Back of the job - the Dreamer
Who's making the dream come true.

(found this poem in the "Law of Success" by Napoleon Hill)

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THE GUNLESS FRIEND by Unknown Author

The dangerous people are not the ones
Who hit you with clubs and rob you with guns!
The thief won't attack your character traits
Or belittle your abilities to your face!
It likely will be a well-meaning friend
Who merely crushes your will to win.

No, he doesn't rob you, at point of gun,
He simply says, "It can't be done."
When pointed to thousands who already are
He smiles and says, "They're superior!"
Personality-wise, and abilities, too,
They're way ahead of what others can do!"

It matters not that his words are untrue
For, you feel "others" must know you!
So, you're robbed of your hopes, your dreams to succeed.
Robbed of the material blessing received,
Robbed of your faith that says, "I can."
And robbed by an ignorant, gunless friend.

So, the deadliest of men is not he with a gun,
But the one who tells you "It can't be done!"
For that taken by burglars can be gotten again.
But, what can replace your will to win?

THE VICTOR by C. W. Longenecker

If you think you are beaten, you are.
If you think you dare not, you don't
If you like to win, but you think you can't,
It is almost certain you won't.

If you think you'll lose you've lost.
For out in the world we find
Success begins with a fellow's will -
It's all in the state of mind.

If you think you are outclassed, you are -
You've got to think high to rise.
You've got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win the prize.

Life's battles don't always go
To the stronger or faster man;
But sooner or late the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can.

(found this poen in the "Law of Success" by Napoleon Hill)

ABOU BEN ADHEM by James Henry Leigh Hunt

Abou Ben Adhem (may his tribe increase!)
Awoke one night from a deep dream of peace,
And saw, within the moonlight in his room,
Making it rich, and like a lily in bloom,
An angel writing in a book of gold: -
Exceeding peace had made Ben Adhem bold,
And to the Presence in the room he said
"What writest thou?" - The vision raised its head,
And with a look made of all sweet accord,
Answered "The names of those who love the Lord."
"And is mine one?" said Abou. "Nay, not so,"
Replied the angel. Abou spoke more low,
But cheerly still, and said "I pray thee, then,
Write me as one that loves his fellow men."

The angel wrote, and vanished. The next night
It came again with a great wakening light,
And showed the names whom love of God had blessed,
And lo! Ben Adhem's name led all the rest.

(found this poem in the "Law of Success" by Napoleon Hill)

THOUGHTS ARE THINGS by Henry Van Dyke

I hold it true that thoughts are things;
They're endowed with bodies and breath and wings;
And that we send them forth to fill
The world with good results, or ill.
That which we call our secret thought
Speeds forth to earth's remotest spot,
Leaving its blessings or its woes
Like tracks behind it as it goes.
We build our future thought by thought,
For good or ill, yet know it not.
Yet, so the universe was wrought.
Thought is another name for fate;
Choose, then, thy destiny and wait,
For love brings love and hate brings hate.

(found this poem in the "Law of Success" by Napoleon Hill)

REVENGE by Charles Henry Webb

Revenge is a naked sword -
  It has neither hilt nor guard.
Would'st thou wield this brand of the Lord:
  Is thy grasp then firm and hard?

But the closer thy clutch of the blade,
  The deadlier blow thou would'st deal,
Deeper wound in thy hand is made -
  It is thy blood reddens the steel.

And when thou hast dealt the blow -
  When the blade from thy hand has flown -
Instead of the heart of the foe
  Thou may'st find it sheathed in thine own!

(found this poem in the "Law of Success" by Napoleon Hill)


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IF by Rudyard Kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with wornout tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on";

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run -
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man my son!

Finding Your Life Purpose

From http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/09/10/finding-your-life-purpose/

Reason

1. It gives meaning to everything you do.


2. It directs and guides you.


3. It motivates you.

Not easy

1. It doesn't have a universal formula.


2. It takes time.

Tips

1. Don't expect instant result
   
   
   
   • It's a journey


2. Identify your strengths
   
   
   
   • It is likely that your life purpose is related to your personal strengths.


3. Identify your passions
   
   
   
   • things you do because of love and not because of external reward


4. Identify your causes
   
   
   
   • Identify the causes that matter to you. Is there a condition in the world that makes you feel discontent? Is there a condition that makes you feel the urge to do something about it?


5. Find the intersection between your strengths, passions, and causes
   
   
   
   • Pick a cause from your list of causes.
   
   
   • From your list of strengths, pick those that can help you improve the situation in the cause.
   
   
   • From the strengths you pick, find the ones you can work on with enthusiasm.
   
   
   • you will find a cause you deeply care about for which you can effectively do something with enthusiasm


6. Write a personal mission statement
   
   
   
   • Don't worry about getting it right on the first try. Just write down what you've got and build upon it.


7. Do something about the intersection
   
   
   
   • Your one-liner is your guide to finding your life purpose. It may still be broad, so you should keep refining it. The way to refine it is by working on it.


8. Act based on the feedback to refine your personal mission statement
   
   
   
   • over time you will get better understanding of what exactly your life purpose is and how you should fulfill it

Vision - The First Step of Life Optimization

From http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2006/09/14/vision-the-first-step-of-life-optimization/

http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2007/12/08/ask-the-readers-what-is-your-one-liner/

• Vision shows us the right direction to go to.


• Vision gives us a standard to measure our progress with.


• For a vision to have impact, it must be simple and profound. Keep your vision to ten words or less - "the one-liner": a concise statement that tells people what you do and that reflects your command of the business and your market. Examples:
  
  
  
  • Google: We deliver the world's information in one click.
  
  
  • Cisco: We network networks.
  
  
  • Helping as many people as possible live the fullest of life.
  
  
  • I make computer hackers miserable.
  
  
  • Helping People Achieve Good Emotional Health and Be Their Best.
  
  
  • Helping others live a stressfree, blissful life.
  
  
  • Enabling others' happiness.
  
  
  • Consultant: I help businesses and professionals increase productivity and revenue.
  
  
  • ThemBid.com (to a requester): We make businesses compete to serve you.
  
  
  • ThemBid.com (to a business): We provide targeted leads.
  
  
  • FrontPageBids.com: We help you monetize Digg traffic.
  
  
  • I teach people that THEY are in charge of their lives!
  
  
  • Approach all things with confidence.
  
  
  • Caring. Community. Commitment. Continuity.
  
  
  • To live my life to the fullest with confidence.
  
  
  • Give more than you receive.
  
  
  • Moving people to action with remarkable corporate videos.
  
  
  • Be grateful!
  
  
  • Help people appreciate great literature!
  
  
  • Put First things First.
  
  
  • Maintain resilience and passion throughout Life's Journey!
  
  
  • To express the wonderment of life through me.
  
  
  • Using language and facts to inspire, help, and heal others.
  
  
  • Controlling my destiny by controlling myself.
  
  
  • Money comes to me frequently in an abundance. Im a moneymagnet!


• Have different one-liners in different parts of your life.

Simple Life Map

From http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2007/02/08/examine-your-life-with-a-simple-life-map/

• Don't waste years of your life.


• Write down several recent years in your life.


• Divide each year into two parts, semester 1 and 2, or any other kind of division.


• Write the important events in each semester regarding your life, which are your "life milestones".


• This life map enables you to get a bird-eye view of your life and how your life is doing.
  
  
  
  • Whether or not you have wisely used your years.
  
  
  • Where you should go next.

Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale

• Success is a progressive realisation of a worthy ideal.


• Success is anyone who is doing deliberately predetermined job because that's what he decided to do deliberately.